3 Ways Your Opposite Personality Type Can Help You Succeed

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“He drives me nuts”

“I can’t stand it when she …”

“He’s always …”

“She never …”

Sound familiar? These are quotes you might hear everyday from co-workers and friends. They all have one thing in common. They are shortchanging both the person complaining and the person being complained about.

If you are having a difficult time with someone on your team (or your boss, or someone else on your volunteer committee, for instance), consider shifting your thinking to these ideas:

Opposite personality types give you new perspectives

If you are a responsible, structured, organized SJ personality type (Gold), the people who partner with you probably rely on you to research a time-tested, proven way to accomplish a task and persevere all the way to the end to see it gets done. A “forget the rules, just get it done now” SP personality type (Red) might shake you up a little with their bold, risky and rogue suggestions, but taking a few of those suggestions might allow you to overcome a challenge or finish earlier than you thought you could. [Continue reading]

How ISTJ and ENFP differences caused a fight and how personality type knowledge stopped it

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Have you ever started a big home improvement project with your partner? In the beginning, it's fabulous. You pick out colors. You choose furniture or accessories. You imagine how great it will all look when it's over, how your lives will be better. … [Continue reading]

Work Doesn’t Owe You Career Satisfaction

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When I start working with career coaching clients, usually I'm reminded of the guy who hated tuna fish. This guy worked construction and every day he and his buddies would sit in a group and eat lunch together. He'd open his lunch and complain, … [Continue reading]

Finding Your Strengths by Annoying People

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You've heard about finding your strengths through personality type and by figuring out which work activities give you energy. Now let's look at another way to find them by turning a negative into a positive. Defining talent and strengths Marcus … [Continue reading]

Find Your Strengths before a Career Change

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When you are making a career change, it might feel like there is absolutely nothing you like about your job. Your boss undermines you, your coworkers hate you, and your work is torture and drudgery. But unless you took your job knowing all that, … [Continue reading]

J/P Personality Type Differences and Business Strengths

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See if this personality type struggle sounds familiar: You see a problem at work. You figure out a way to step in and start to make progress. Then someone comes along and says, "You know, this is really the responsibility of [insert name of project … [Continue reading]

Career Satisfaction Exercise: Love It or Loathe It

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Once you understand the three circles of career satisfaction, it's time to start coming up with your circles. The first exercise I ask clients to do begins to fill in the "Things I enjoy" circle. I love the materials from Marcus Buckingham, … [Continue reading]

3 Parts of Career Satisfaction


Great things often come in threes. The famous three points of terrific speeches. Fabulous movies trilogies like Lord of the Rings. Famous photographs use the rule of thirds. Satisfying careers are also built on three platforms. Think of them … [Continue reading]

One Click to Reduce Burn Out and Overwhelm

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This morning I was working with Steve* to overcome his sense of increasing burn out. Steve, like so many of us, is expected to "do more with less" every day - and on a reduced budget with reduced staff, to boot. He loves his work and believes in his … [Continue reading]

Recovering from Overwhelm

It's time to start blogging again. Late last summer, my life went crazy for a while. This past (almost) year has been a blur. My "real job" became off-the-charts busy, then my husband changed companies, then we moved to a new house, then I changed … [Continue reading]