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Comment on Personality Type and the Selective Attention Test by Larick

Larick — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 23:21:00 +0000

I am enfp. I got 14 because one of the passes was blocked. An extra player in black wearing too many clothes walked across the stage at some point, but I didn’t look at them. I didn’t realize it was meant to be a gorilla til they replayed it.

Comment on Personality Type and the Selective Attention Test by Artapoelk_1

Artapoelk_1 — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 21:38:00 +0000

Hi Leon, i am a bit like you as far as multi functioning goes. i also got it but i wouldn’t have said i necessarily give much attention to detail??? x

Comment on Dating Advice for ENFP and ISTJ Personality Types by Pamann

Pamann — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 22:56:00 +0000

You explain my husband and my relationship to a T. And, we own and operate a small business together. So it’s really times two the challenge for us.
We met while I was on vacation in Florida. There was something about him that I couldn’t explain but I knew he was special. After my vacation, we dated long distance, which was good, because we got to know each other, and each of us had enormous phone bills each month talking for hours each day. But we were definitely falling in love. We got engaged four months after we met and married eleven months after we met. Fast forward three years, and that’s where our personalities kick in because I guess the newness wore off. We started to get along horribly a lot of the time. I didn’t know it was our personalities that clashed until only a year ago. I was really considering leaving him when the kids were old enough because I didn’t know how to deal with him anymore. Nothing made him happy. I understand him now and don’t consider leaving anymore. But…
It is so tough at times for this ENFP and her ISTJ husband. I’m really trying to understand how he operates, but it is so difficult to live under his thumb because his way, in his opinion, is the only right way 90 percent of the time. When he see’s he has super stressed me to the point of (almost) no return, he backs down and comes around a bit. I wonder if it is part of a power play or he really doesn’t realize how stressful his actions and words are on me.
I do love your advice and will follow it on being a tad less available and finding playmates of my own type. He is human and I know he means well. I’m doing my best to keep the harmony between us.

Comment on Dating Advice for ENFP and ISTJ Personality Types by Pamann

Pamann — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 14:24:00 +0000

Thank-you an hundred times. I’ve been married to an ISTJ male for twenty years and it has been an emotional mine field for me. It is when we are super stressed and I am seriously considering separation, that he is shocked and comes around from his cold, distant, unemotional place and tries to work things out. I am saving this for future reference so I have somewhere to go when things get bad. I will say, when our relationship is good, it’s very, very good. But at least 50% of the time it is nearly unbearable. Any other advice from you who have been through it would be so appreciated.

Comment on Dating Advice for ENFP and ISTJ Personality Types by Grateful Anonymous

Grateful Anonymous — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 19:14:00 +0000

These are fabulous lessons for the ENFP in love with an ISTJ… now, I’d be fascinated to read tips for the ISTJ in love with the ENFP! Thanks so much!!!

Comment on Dating Advice for ENFP and ISTJ Personality Types by Gadzooks

Gadzooks — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 15:01:00 +0000

I was married to an ISTJ for 20 years. She finally got sick of my personality, invented reasons to leave, and broke up a family with three young kids. Don’t trust them, they don’t know how to handle the stress of relationships because they aren’t flexible.

Comment on Personality Type and the Selective Attention Test by Leon

Leon — Mon, 09 May 2011 06:53:00 +0000

I got the right answer and the gorilla was VERY noticeable, at least it was for me, because I noticed it immediately when it entered the screen.
I’m an INFP and I have a lot of trouble focusing on one task which is why when I’m doing one thing I’m also doing one or two other things at the same time because if I only do one thing I get bored really easily (really short attention span) and I don’t pay attention anymore.
When I was watching the video I was also chatting with a friend and listening to music.

But maybe the reason why I got the right answer and saw the gorilla is because I don’t really have to concentrate much because I’m also doing other things, which lets me focus more on what I’m doing.
For me, more tasks = more focus on each task than compared to when I’m only doing one task.
I hope you understood what I was trying to say.

Comment on Personality Type and the Selective Attention Test by wdaunheimer

wdaunheimer — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 10:12:00 +0000

That’s right, Rachael. I’m not sure why, but some people just don’t see the gorilla at all. I found it rather embarrassing to get the right answer and then find out I had missed something so obvious, but I had no clue.

Comment on Personality Type and the Selective Attention Test by Rachael

Rachael — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 04:05:00 +0000

I don’t get the big deal – i had the right answer and I clearly saw the gorilla – some people don’t??

Comment on Dating Advice for ENFP and ISTJ Personality Types by Nashipai

Nashipai — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 06:44:00 +0000

I am married to an istj like niss. But like he said it is not for the faint hearted. I am an ENFP. Our relationship has been very tumultuous (almost 8 years). I always feel like he cannot accept me as i am. Very frustrating and what is worse, is that he is very critical. So you can imagine how much I “appreciate” it. Anyway not with him now, enjoying the space and freedom to be myself. What a relief.